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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, how about just saying to yourself -- My pregnancy did not get announced in the special way that I wanted.  I'm disappointed about that, but c'est la vie.

And start fresh with your MIL.[/quote]

I promise you I could care less about that.  I'm a little upset that I had to care for my mother for a week when she had a broken ankle, sneaking off to throw up, etc., to avoid telling her, when DH already broke that promise... but that's about it.

I can't start fresh with MIL, I'm upset.  If she apologized, maybe.  But I don't really love soliciting apologies.[/quote]

Apologize for something that happened 1.5 years ago?!? Even if that happened, you would not get closure. Closure comes from within. The posters of DCUM are collectively saying that you are holding on to this unreasonably. You need to look in the mirror and repeat until you believe it too.[/quote]

Well, I haven't "held on" to anything, I learned about it 2 weeks ago and am processing it.

That said, integrity and honesty are extremely important to me.  [b]I don't think it's wrong for me to feel a lack of trust over this.[/b][/quote]

NP chiming in here - OP, I think you're absolutely correct. Some people have a higher barrier for trust than others, and people need to be sensitive to that.

If you haven't already, please tell DH you feel betrayed. And as far as addressing the MIL issue--DH needs to apologize to HER for betraying your trust, and tell her that what he did was wrong (if he hasn't already acknowledged that to her). And Hopefully that will cause MIL to want to apologize to you, but he can't force her to do it and you shouldn't expect it.

Bottom line: you were hurt, it's justified, and DH needs to make amends regardless of how long it's been since he messed up.[/quote]

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