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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Aside the "litter" comment I can relate.My IL adore my SiL children ,very neutral to mine and somewhat negative to BIL.BIL was married and divorced and now his children are "that women's kids"
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In psychology, there is a term for this.  The MIL sees her daughter's children as the "good" side of (MIL), while the son's children are the "bad" side of (MIL).

While each side is distorted, the "good" side is exceedingly overemphasized; and the "bad" side is dismissed.  I suspect it stems from MIL having a poor self image, having poor self worth/sense of worthlessness and/or lack of actual self awareness, along with some anger and disappointment issues.  MIL's fantasy is compartmentalized into  the "good" child and the "bad" child; a reflection of how she sees herself, in the un/subconscious.

In reality, MIL (and daughter) will never be as good as she "thinks" her daughter (and his family) is, nor ever as bad as she "thinks" her son (and his family) is. [/quote]

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