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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]It's not really fair to say that you had an expectation that she would continue to work unless you also have a proven track record with helping with all of the non-paid household work. Perhaps she feels she has no choice but to stay at home because you don't help out as much with this stuff as you said you would[/quote]

But I did! I mean if you actually asked my DW who did the heavy lifting when we both worked, it was me! I am more of a multi-tasker and really did the heavy lifting. I cooked more (still do), I really enjoyed it being more hands on. I actually am the neater person in the marriage (not a neat freak, just more organized). I actually miss being more involved but work is what it is (like my new job which makes staying home work requires me to do things like travel to NY for the day on the Acela, but thankfully allows me time to come home by dinner). 
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But did you do more of the things that involve missing work?  And how will you do those in your new job, if she goes back to work?  She needs to feel confident that the new job will be a success, and it will not be a success if she cannot have good attendance at work.  Also if she is still pumping, that will limit the jobs she can take.[/quote]

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