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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe he had bad taste in women. [/quote]

I've seen pictures of them both--they look alike--and both look like his mother whom he hates.[/quote]

I don't hate my mother, but I don't really like her as a person, and she was an awful marriage partner for my father (I didn't see this clearly until I was much older).  I picked several women who were very bad choices for me - and also happened to have personalities or relationship/love dynamics much like my mother (broken) - we do marry our parents.  My sister is on her second marriage and both of her exes had some of my father's worst qualities.  For the record, I'm sure I also contributed a bunch of brokenness to those relationships, it wasn't just my ex-wife or ex-gfs.

After a bunch of therapy (for me, went to by myself) I finally started deliberately dating women who were not that type.  I met my 2nd wife pretty quickly after that and have had the most incredible and easy marriage I could ever imagine.  I still tell my wife at least two to three times a week that I am just amazed at how wonderful she is.

I don't think this is common - breaking the pattern - but I'm thankful as hell every day for my wonderful therapist (haven't seen her in like six years) and my wonderful wife.  I only have two marriages on my official count, but there were two near misses following my divorce (yes, as a PP said, "careless" would have been appropriate), so I could so easily see this being me.  However, no kids from priors.[/quote]

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