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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]WOHM here, lawyer and sole breadwinner with SAHD spouse who does almost everything around the house.  It's a great setup in many ways, but I am still not in the same position as my male colleagues with SAH wives.  I might get flamed for this, but kids want their moms in a visceral way that I don't think applies to dads.  Even though DH was the primary caregiver and spent more time with DCs when they were little, they wanted Mommy when they were sick, awake at night with nightmares, lonely, etc.  They cried and clung to my leg when I had to travel.  And so I had to choose between not meeting their needs or getting the stinkeye when I left work on time (or as my a$$hole colleague called it, "early").  Work won for several years and I am trying to rebalance.  I don't have a good answer for how to balance the biological realities of pregnancy, BF'ing, etc., with a demanding career.[/quote]

It's very, very true.  Flame me, too, then.  When I left to have my baby, it was seen as a major inconvenience (I don't have a high powered job or anything) and they honestly acted like I had a miscarriage.  No one spoke to me about my child, never called to make sure I was ok.  Nothing.  Every male colleague whose wife has a baby - we have cards to sign, money to contribute to food delivery, BABY SHOWERS in the office.  It's ridiculous.

I don't get it![/quote]

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