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[quote=Anonymous]My DH didn't make partner the first year.  It depends on the firm, some firms give a couple of years chance--I know you said your DH was depressed about it, but it often has to do with how many new partners they want to make given the firm's past and projected performance, and sometimes it comes down to an arm-wrestle between powerful partners.  It is not solely based on what they think of an individual's performance--your DH needs to internalize that.  My DH has now been on the other side (meaning, has been a partner at two big law firms) and it was a real eye-opener as to how those decisions get made.

Your DH will be able to figure out by reading the tea leaves (his superiors'  carefully crafted statements and hints so as not to invite lawsuits or give promises) whether he should look for another job or wait another year.  Really, he should look for another job while trying for partner again, unless the tea leaves say he will never make partner at that firm.

Re Catholic school.  Hmm.  You should go and talk to the school re financial aid.  They give financial aid and no one knows who gets it and who doesn't.  At our old (California) school, only the parish priest knew; not even the principal.  If you are a good school family, they will want to keep you, OP.  And remember, the Catholic church subsidizes everybody, which is why the tuition is so low--because they see it as an investment in the future, raising the next generation of Catholics.

That being said, we're in Arlington and cannot believe the incredible state of public schooling here.  You can continue the kids via CCD, which is, imo, not as effective but will work in a pinch.[/quote]

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