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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP-here. I thought I did everything right with my ex. I was honest, faithful, I was available emotionally and sexually. Addressed issues head on, with calm and honest demeanor. I'm attractive. It still failed. He still cheated, left and said he never loved me. Wrecked me bad. I gave up on men for a while, met one I really like, but kept thinking he had to be fake/lying/have ulterior motives, and I ruined it. I look around and I see similar stories, and I'm just wondering, will it all ever click for me? Does it click for anyone? Is there really happiness with another or are we deluding ourselves. I know everyone asks these questions and the books I read on the topic make me ask more not answer any. I'm in a mood. Thanks for indulging me.[/quote]

Someone said once that (most of the time) a good marriage takes two things:  "Choose wisely and treat kindly."

Sounds like you treated kindly, but may have not chosen well.

I have a friend whose man-picker is broken.  She had the gay boyfriend first, then cheated on him with the cheating-type, who she married.  Now she's divorced from that one, picked a total nut job that she had to call 911 on, then married someone who was nice but she was not attracted to, then divorced him and is now with one of those controlling guys who want to isolate you from everyone.  arrugh.  The worst part is she's got a couple of kids she's put through all this, one of whom is now not speaking to her.

At times, my DH and another good friend have stood up to say, "Larla, I think you being with x is a mistake, and this is why."  It takes courage, because it is really not your business, but if you care about a friend I do think it's the right thing to do, to help your friend.  Anyways she often comments about how much she appreciated (my DH) for telling her about one of her choices.

But she inevitably goes for the loser guy anyways.

So I say to you, OP:  If you have reason to believe your man-picker is broken, grab your friend who has a great one, and ask them their opinion and advice.  Then when you've got a winner, provide kindness, which sounds like you have, and with a little good luck, that will see you through.[/quote]

I don't know if my man picker is broken, but good advice. Thanks. [/quote]

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