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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I'm the PP @9:16 and much of the anger in my post is the direct result of four miserable years entangled with someone who suffered BPD and refused to consider that any kind of help was in order. She was remarkably effective at snowing therapists and was 1000% about making it out to be my issue. I fled in terror at the end - anyone see Gone Girl? Yeah, no murder, but seriously afraid for what I'd be accused of.

I am so so so grateful we did not have children.

I'm with the PP saying that if the genders were swapped, we'd all be telling a woman to DTMFA already. Being a woman or a SAHM is not an excuse to be abusive to people. I'm sure being a SAHM is very very challenging work and should be treated with the same respect as any other full-time job. Not everyone is cut out to do it, and that's OK too. It still isn't an excuse to be abusive..that's a red-herring. If you are depressed and anxious, that's your problem to solve. [/quote]

You're right, and I would be supportive of OP up and leaving.   It wasn't being a SAHM that had me in such a mess... just a stressful life overall.  Looking back the issues had been there for years, they got much worse when I was a single mom.  (No, my issues didn't cause the first divorce.  First "husband" did add to my issues though.  Actually he was a big contributor.)

There is no excuse for being abusive.  There are reasons behind behavior, and it's up to the individual to do something about it.  Thank God my husband has supported me through all of this.  He is a huge part of the reason I went for help, and have come as far as I have.

OP, if you leave I would encourage you to get your kids the hell out of there, too.[/quote]

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