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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Uhhm sound more like OCD to me... I married one and now I have more issues than he does. Everything "has a place." My drapes have to be not only closed completely, but they have to be closed in a certain way... So I do it myself. The decorative pillows have to arranged in a certain way... My housekeeper has been driving me nuts all week and I think it's on purpose! Please don't dress my chairs with your jacket or your handbag either. Use the coat rack. If you use a cup or a spoon, hand wash it and put it in the dishwasher. Yes. And ohh no one sits on my cream sectional it's for decorative purposes only. Do not even bother getting something in the pantry if you will not return it exactly where you found it. Do not use the kitchen if you spill something either on the counter or on the floor, be it crumbs, water or whatever and you can't clean it up right away. Who are you leaving the mess for? Clean up after your self please. Wearing shoes in the house? Let's not even go there please.

On a second thought, I am not OCD, I am just a neat freak and I like order. It makes my house manageable. I guess you don't mix up paperwork in the office either. In short, OP I think your DH was very patient with you during your first year of marriage, he hoped you would somehow "learn." How hard is it to put something where you found it? How hard is it to put the same effort you put at your work place in your house? [/quote]

OMG, the last two questions are exactly what DH uses all the time. 
I have been reading articles about perfectionist, controlling and OCD. I will have to watch the movie PP mentioned. I hope I don't find DH is so bad. Just like PP@ 11/7/2014 11:03 said, DH is a great husband in other ways though.
I thought if I just do what he wants  me to do at the minimum (those that I can't ignore), it will solve the problems but it does not happen consistently. Part of the reason is our priorities are different I guess.  
I will try to arrange an appointment with a therapist sometime soon. It seems the only help I can get. 
-OP[/quote]

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