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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seriously, go to a midwife. They will enjoy having you as a patient and getting to talk with you, make sure you are comfortable, explain, exam you in whatever order you want, etc. At my first well-woman exam with a midwife the midwife asked all these very polite, nonjudgmental questions like "Have you ever been a sex worker?"  and just took it all down. THEY would not bat an eye. I'm not so sure about a regular OB-GYN - they spend at most ten minutes with you, often significantly less, and it's just a very fast, assembly-line kind of check. And I remember going for the first time as a virgin and being asked over and over by the nurse, doctor, everyone if I was sexually active as if I just didn't know what that phrase meant.

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I totally get what you're saying and am considering it, but as someone who is already nervous -- isn't it going to make me more nervous (or creep me out) to have to sit through a long conversation and talk about my health and my hopes and dreams and have someone explaining every little detail -- just because that adds a lot of time? I mean I'm looking for someone sensitive but wouldn't mind being in and out in 10 min as that may be all that I can handle. I'm know a midwife would do things they think would make me relax, but would they actually -- or would I be just as nervous just prolonging the inevitable?[/quote]

No, it will be less creepy, and the actual exam is incredibly quick, whoever does it. It's just that they will tailor the visit to your actual health issues rather than try to fit you in a box that doesn't make sense for you. I go to a midwife for my well woman checks because it is less creepy and more helpful, and I am a married almost-40 yo who has given birth multiple times. OB-GYNs are reallly more focused on pregnancy. They do well woman checks, but the OB element is a huge part of their practice.  Once I was done having kids, I wanted someone who would focus on my health rather than just birth control/postpartum issues and a thirty-second exam.[/quote]

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