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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was a virgin until 25 and this always made me nervous too. I'd get so anxious anticipating asking for a smaller speculum but it was never a big deal when the time came. They aren't going to bust out laughing at you.[/quote]

Be who you are and don't act embarrassed or apologetic. It's possible that a nurse or maybe even the dr. gives you the side eye or asks you incredulously a few times whether you've ever been sexually active. Stay calm and just say no; if the attitude is really getting on your nerves you can say once "no -- for religious reasons," and that'll generally shut people up if they're being rude. Even if they act obnoxious, don't be afraid to speak up for yourself once the exam starts. If the speculum hurts or you feel a lot of pressure during the bimanual, say it. They can grab a smaller speculum (if they don't start with the smallest already); during the bimanual, there may not be a lot they can do as they do need to push down but if you need them to take it easy or if you need to stop for a minute -- don't be afraid to voice that just because they acted obnoxious initially. Remember you are paying for this service.

The PP is right -- they're not going to bust out laughing. And yours is not the type of thing that they will even talk about after the fact (not that it should matter) -- it's just not that interesting. The cases that get talked about aren't "this 35 yr old hadn't had sex before and she said the bimanual hurt," because there are many many people who've have sex daily who still flinch all the way through the exam. The cases that get talked about are the truly bizarre ones -- like this lady stuck a cucumber up there and couldn't get it out and it rotted. (I'm a nurse and that case is legend in our office.)
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