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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let her roll her eyes and stomp away.  Let her sit alone in an empty room stewing.

If you haven't done anything to instigate a response like that - her problem, don't indulge her.  [b]If you have been needling her in some way (and I suspect that you have)...just stop it.
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I wonder this, too.  OP sounds very judgmental about her SIL being single and not having children.  I wouldn't be shocked if OP's SIL has a long list of condescending things OP has said about her being single and childless.[/quote]

Yeah, op sounds like a smug married who likes to look down on her shingle childless sister in law.

A lot of her comments could be funny - depends on tone.

And maybe you were bragging about your trip abroad.[/quote]

Trust me, her comments aren't funny. And dh and I had just gotten back from our anniversary trip. Our friends wanted to hear about it. Isn't that normal conversation among friends? How was your weekend? Tell me about your trip. Etc.[/quote]

That is normal convo, op. And[b] normal people should be happy for your successes and travels and accomplishments.[/b] She sounds miserably alone and like she has defense mechanisms.[/quote]

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[b]Maybe SIL thinks that Op is the one who is constantly dominating conversations, redirecting topics back to herself[/b] and using her status as a married person with a partner against the single, all alone SIL.  Honestly, I don't know.  But really they both seem to be more than a little self absorbed to me since this seems to be happening soooo frequently between them.  Holy cow back down, retract the claws ladies.  Not everything has to be viewed as a one-up.[/quote]

If SIL derails the conversation b/c she is jealous/insecure/can't relate, and OP brings the convo back to the original topic, then I see no problem with that. It would be funny if SIL viewed that as OP being self absorbed...clearly the SIL is so self-absorbed she can't handle listening to a conversation to which she can't relate.[/quote]

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