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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really don't get the "I have more than you, OP, but..." responses. OP wasn't trying to bankroll her son with $ she didn't have. She told her son to get a job but he was too immature and spoiled to listen. My sense is that at one point she could afford their lifestyle and he became spoiled. Now he's being forced to grow up and deal with life.[/quote]

Because OP is living beyond her means and teaching her son to live beyond his. Or feels guilty about not being able to provide what she perceives other kids are getting. What others are telling her is that wealthier kids aren't getting all the stuff her kid is getting. The kid is manipulating her by saying he's the poor kid.

My kid (wealthy) gets $200/month for allowance. No car. 4 year old laptop. Didn't work last summer (needed surgery) but did the year before and will this summer. [/quote]

What I remember reading (and I may need to go back) is that she's not giving him much of anything these days and wonders if she's wrong. The money spent has been for books and a much needed laptop. Now that she can no longer afford other luxuries she's not trying to give them and expects him to do for self.

I suspect the class ring , iPhone and car were purchased when she had the money. Now there's no child support and she expects him to step up.

He got merit aid so I wonder if she's willing to give him allowance because he's studious or has obligations associated with his aid.[/quote]

She's giving him $75 every 2 weeks. Offered to pay for the new iPhone if he made a small contribution. Given him extra amounts. It's only October![/quote]

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