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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here- today was first day of visit. I opted to sit this one out. Talked to mil on phone to let her know id see her sometime tomorrow. She proceeded to talk for 5min about someone I've never met. And so the fun filled visit starts![/quote]
C'mon, I am sure she's annoying, but she's not here to entertain you or help you around the house. She came to see her son. As long as she's not being a bitch to you, I'd say cut her some slack. [/quote]

New poster- perhaps it's a cultural difference, but my mom in fact DOES think she should try to help me in some way around the house when she visits. She asks what she can stock my fridge with, or if there's anything needing an extra pair of hands.

She remembers what it's like to be a full time working young couple in an expensive city...she has no desire to just be a drain. She wants to add something helpful and of value to her trips besides just "visiting."[/quote]

Yeah but I didn't ask my FIL to rearrange the garage and I didn't like him touching my stuff and mixing all my shit up.  The time that he was in there I felt crazy and stressed.  And then he said to me in a smug voice, " I don't know how long your car is but you should be able to park your car in there now".  Did not ask him to ride to the rescue!!  Where were you and MIL when DH and I needed ONE just ONE night out?  How about some damn babysitting?  EVER?  Not once in 11 years, Jesus H Christ!!  We don't want to sit around and visit with you every single damn night for 11 nights straight! We want to go out one of those nights!![/quote]

I totally hear you. I was just saying how nice it is when an in law wants to be helpful but starts by asking what they can do, not just taking the liberty to rearrange etc[/quote]

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