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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I came to this post for some guidance on this topic and am more confused that ever.

Should we give $54 or $108? More? We are not wealthy by any stretch and are a bit financially strained at the moment. I'm just trying to determine what's "appropriate."

Adding additional information that was raised in previous posts:
--I would say we are close, non-Jewish (Muslim) friends of the family. 
--My youngest daughter will be in the ceremony and my husband will be assisting with set up for the reception. 
--The father is barely pulling off this event bc mom was diagnosed with an illness half-way into planning and has since had to stop working.

This question is a bit stressful, as over-thinking it is detracting from our excitement to witness this rite of passage event for this wonderful boy.
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First, so sorry about your friend. My mom was sick during my brother's bar mitzvah 30+ years ago and it put things in perspective. Since you are close friends with this family, they know your circumstances and will appreciate whatever you give. Really. My twins are being b'nai mitzvah'd in 2015 and we really want people's presence rather than their presents. If they choose to give something, that is their choice but they certainly do not need to give a certain amount and some of the amounts suggested in this thread are obnoxious. My children have enough and they know it. Since you are so close with the boy and the family, perhaps you could give a personal gift (that does not have to be expensive). I am curious what your daughter is doing during the ceremony, though (and I am not being snarky). Please don't overthink and enjoy celebrating with this family.[/quote]

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