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What do you think is the appropriate next step? [/quote]
For your son to learn to control his anger?  I mean look, I understand why he doesn't like it and it's rude for teacher to insist, even if he uses 'son' like some people use 'buddy'.  But to be trembling with rage?  I think your son is having a lot of troubles surrounding his dad and they should be addressed.  This is a symptom, not the problem.[/quote]

I agree.[/quote]

I agree, too, but who does that, call their student "son"? Is that common? Or is he from another culture?[/quote]

Calling some "son" is a pretty common way for adult men to address young boys in the African American culture.  It's a warm word, that fits with the notion of the black community as extended family, and relates to the use of other family related terms (brother or sister for an adult about your age, calling an older woman Mama or Auntie, young kids referring to each other as "play cousins") in the culture.

If you've grown up using a term in a certain way, it can be hard to stop it.  I grew up calling my father and other adult men "sir".  It's what was expected in my household.  As an adult, living in this area, I've learned that some men don't like it.  People tell me "You know me too well to call me that", which makes me laugh because of course I know my father better than any of them.  Stopping calling people "sir", and remembering which people to stop with, is actually really hard. I used to slip up all the time.  My guess is that your son's teacher feels the same way.

I'll also add as the mother of a fatherless boy, that his reaction is very concerning.  Have you considered therapy?[/quote]

Once someone has told you repeatedly to stop calling them something that offends them do you stop?[/quote]

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