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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]8-6[/quote]

Holy crap - that's your problem right there: your child is putting in a 10 hour day.  You are an adult and [b]you[/b] would find 10 hour days unsustainable.  It's unreasonable to expect that of a 6 year old.

If there is a lot of yelling at the school, then it's a low-quality school.  However, that's a secondary issue.  Find a better school, but more importantly, find a better life.  You are asking too much of your child.[/quote]

[b]8-6 is a long day but it's fairly standard (or only a little longer) for an elementary school kid who has aftercare.[/b] HOWEVER, there is a huge difference between a 6-yr old who spends those 10 hours in a nurturing, happy and stimulating environment, with plenty of time for play and OP's kid's situation. My kid is in a JKLMM elementary and whenever we do have him in aftercare due to scheduling conflicts, he doesn't want to leave when I come to pick him up (sometimes I think he'd like to live on the school grounds!) He also gets excited on Sunday evenings because tomorrow it will be time to go to school and see his friends. School days, even long school days, aren't bad - it's that particular school that sounds awful!

OP, look around for charters or other EOTP schools - most anything sounds better. You can call Janney as someone suggested but I bet they just went down to the next person on the list and that person took the spot, so that's gone.

Also, 'finding a better life' is great advice in theory but hard to apply. OP is a single parent, thus she already has less income and flexibility than a two-parent family. My schedule is more flexible than hers, I bet, not just because DH and I can alternate or modify our schedules if a life or work emergency comes up for one of us, to make DC's routine work, but also because having two parents allows more parenting choice and more income - we can buy IB for a good school and not worry about long commute, plus I don't need to earn as much as if I were a single parent, which enables me to have a flexible job with time to drop off/pick up DC from school w/o needing to put him in before/aftercare every day. Not to mention that some people, single parents or not, are in less flexible career fields than others or have other circumstances which make life harder. Being able to have a better life is a luxury and one to be grateful for, not something everyone can achieve just with a wave of a magic wand. Even moving to e.g., a far out suburb with decent schools and lower cost of living (to trade off for a hellish commute) takes time. You can't just move in a week.[/quote]

Over the course of human development, it's not standard at all.  As a society, we've made some choices about the importance of Mammon in our lives.  Why do people have children they can't raise?  Why do they pretend they have no choices?  We all have choices - we may not like them - but we have them.  [/quote]

My choice is for intolerant judgmental people on this thread to be quiet.  But they may not like my choice.  It sounds like they have so many choices they cannot figure out what thread to go to to make more poor parents feel bad next.

Yes, it is incomprehensible to me that someone would give up a spot at Janney that guarantees Deal and Wilson.  But I am not walking in her shoes, and I have no idea what was going on in her life at the time.  For all you know, she could have been in a shelter.  We just allowed a child to miss an entire week of ES homework (not very self motivated) due to a death in the family.  We should be shot, right?

And the problem here is not the existence of recess or after care but the nature of it.  We put our third child in after care for K and 1st grade - 8:45, sometimes morning care at 7:00 am until 6pm.  She was at a JKLM and I was undergoing treatment for a life threatening illness.  Knowing what you know now about me, that I put my kid in after care, should my husband and I have "chosen" to have an abortion instead?  She seems pretty happy to be on this earth, and we are delighted that she is here.  Even had she faced years of after care, I would never have regretted our decision to have a third child.  And no, she was not an accident either.  And we can afford her, we just cannot always give her all the attention she deserves because we can no longer play man to man defense.  Does that mean anyone who cannot afford a nanny in addition should never have more than two children?  Give us all a break and give it a rest.  OP, I feel for you.[/quote]

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