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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, respectfully, even before the last outrageous story, it was clear you are avoiding the obvious.  Your marriage is over.  I'd give up fighting, just let your DH act out until you are prepared to pull the plug and use this time to plan your divorce, i.e. counselor, find job, see lawyer, etc.[/quote]

Yes, it is hanging on its very last, thin, fraying thread.  Its just very hard for me to reconcile what I will have to see my boys go through.  They are always asking where he is and love spending time with him when he is home.  And my husband never behaved like this up until the last year.  He was an ever-attentive father and probably gave too much of himself.  We are not fighting.  He just says he feels numb.  Feels nothing.

I guess I was just hoping it was midlife crisis crap and he would realize before its too late. :([/quote]

One of the PPs here - I promise you that once you set your mind and emotions to cutting that last thread, you will feel a million times better, and your children will have their mom back.  I'm not saying any of this is easy, but it sounds like you are going through the hardest parts now, or have already gone through them.  You just have to take that final step and as one poster said, let him continue to act out while you get your exit plan together.  You CAN DO THIS!

And you are right, your primary job is to raise your boys, and you can't do that if you are expending all of your emotional energy on trying to hold your marriage together.  You deserve and need a partner, not a 4th child.  I was a SAHM too, but I'm making it work.  And I bet you have many friends who will give you the emotional and childcaring support you need right now.  Lean on them, I'm sure they've been watching this go on for a while, and will be proud of you for saving you and your kids from a rotten situation.  I'm so sorry.[/quote]

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