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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
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Your drained and exhausted from raising one child? Sounds more like your just depressed.

OP here. [b]Yes, when you have no local family to give you a break, no support network, when your spouse works 70 hour weeks plus weekends plus travel (so I now have his hours too which is exhausting), and your child isn't sleeping through the night, then yes, I am drained and exhausted from raising one child.[/b]

OP, some of us moms are exhausted like you and cannot rely on family or DH to help out. But at least you have the luxury to stay at home and not have to go to work everyday. I get that you had a menial job and did not make sense financially to keep working while paying for child care. But it sounds like you are lacking goals- career, finance, etc. You have to decide what you want to be when you grow up. [/quote]

+100. This is your problem, OP. You're expecting things to just happen, that a meaningful job will fall in your lap. You need to make goals and create your life, not just exist in it.[/quote]

I don't want to minimize your situation, but want to kindly suggest that when you are bored and tired, it's easy to feel hopeless. Make a goal to get out of the house with your baby every day. Find out what she'll tolerate. Maybe you can browse for books (crafting books?) at the library while she's in a carrier and then let her crawl around in the kids' section. That's also a good place to meet people. Even if you just take her somewhere and window shop. Just get out! If you're in Chantilly and haven't met other SAHMs, look for a Mom's group in Dulles/Ashburn, which is not too far. I'm a WOHM in that area and all my friends are SAHMs. And...take heart, this exhausting, what-happened-to-my-life, 24/7 stage is trial by fire. Even a few months from now you'll find your baby becomes more consistent and you start to slowly gain more time for yourself and normalcy in your life. By the end of my 6 month maternity leave, my baby was in bed by 7 p.m. and only woke once a night. It seemed like a miracle and I actually am sentimental about those early, crazy days. Good luck, it's hard.[/quote]

Crafting books and walking the mall? I'd kill myself if that is what my day boiled doen to.[/quote]

Suggested bc OP said her interests were artistic/crafting...point being, if she's bored doing the baby-centric things, she should get out and do what interests HER and bring the baby along as much as she will tolerate. It is hard if you're only doing mommy stuff all the time. But I'm sure your days are filled with only the most esoteric and intellectual pursuits.[/quote]

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