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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I completely lost it on my teen DD the other day. She has morphed from the darling girl I have known all my life into this snarky, disrespectful creature I think I barely know.  She barely, if ever talks to me.  When I ask her about her day or what she is working on her answers range from monosyllablic to a "what business is it of yours."  Three times in the last week I have found myself in screaming matches with her over seemingly small things.  She is convinced always of her rectitude and if I question what she says, she gets upset and says I do not believe her!  Usually, this has to do with some statement of "fact" she has gleaned from a teenage friend or a teacher.

Last week, she twice was screaming at me - going so far as to call me a "f**king moron."  Well, at that I completely lost it and told her to simply "f**k off."  Two other times, I have told her to "stop screaming at me."  The last time I told her this, she challenged me with a "what are you going to do?"  At that specfic time, I did not have an answer, but I think it is going to be things like:  a) no sleepover with friend' b) no driving lessons' and c) no driver's license.

I know I should not have blown my cool, but I simply could not take it anymore.  [/quote]

Well, in this house if my child DARED use the F-bomb at me, they'd get a crack across that mouth.  (and I don't spank!), but reading further, apparently is wholly acceptable for this kind of language in your home, as you told her to eff off.  She also has seemingly learned that screaming at someone you love unconditionally is status quo.  I understand that her behavior is disturbing and saddening, but truly, WHAT are you teaching her?   I agree that if she can't respect you and your rules, then no way would she be getting the privilege of a drivers license.[/quote]

A bit of background. My DW and i are divorced.  I divorced DW because she engages in screaming and disrespectful behavior, along with a bit of adultery thrown in. Unfortunately, because of the laws in VAi I had to settle for joint custody with DW. DD loves with DW in the week and I have her weekends and a few evenings a week. So, DD spends a lot of time nursing at the tit of exDW's resentment, which spoon feeds her a lot of BS about what a terrible person I am b/c i "left" her, don't love her, etc. I have actually had DD parrot a ,ot of this BS back at me, and I know it comes from her mother.  All I can do is say it's not true, I lover you, etc. Hipefully, one day, she will see things as they actually are and not as her mother paints them. [/quote]

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