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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't ask her anything. Stop "bothering" her. She'll come and tell you when she feels like it.[/quote]

She'll tell OP what? That she wants his money but not his expectations or rules? This advice is as bad as the advice to model violence by smacking your kid across the mouth.

OP, your kid needs you to be there, even if she's never, ever going to tell you that. Do you really want to live in a house where nobody talks to anybody else? Do you really want to model her own petulant behavior right back at her? So keep asking her how her day went and take the monosyllabic answers as they come. Joke about it in private with your wife, and know that it will eventually get better.

Some time when you're both calm, sit down and apologize again, unconditionally, for cursing at her. Tell her that you want to communicate about things better. Tell her that the next time she curses at you, she loses her cellphone for 1 day, 2 days, whatever works for you. If you curse at her, maybe you can put $10 in a jar for a family dinner out (oh, the joy, I know, but you can't just stop trying). I posted some rules of arguing/assertive communication earlier, you can teacher her these because they are life skills.[/quote]

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