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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your ILs sound awesome.

I have very nice ILs - except for one thing. They are not used to doing anything.

Mine do not do any dishes, meals, laundry when they come to visit.
They usually stay for a few months. They do not eat left overs. They want me to make their beds every day, change sheets every week. They expect me to  wipe down and sanitize their bathrooms everyday.  Change towels everyday.

They expect to be taken for shopping or an outing everyday.

They expect food to be served with full table setting... you get the drift.  They would fit in very well in a full service resort.

The only saving grace is that they visit once in two years.

Inspite of all these things - I have a good relationship with my ILs. They are old people with set ways, I cannot change them. All I can do is do as much a I can manage.  [/quote]

I just...how do you have the patience?  Do you do all this work for them everyday?  I could not do it.[/quote]

They're obviously foreign...probably the type who burn DILs alive for not "showing respect." [/quote]

They are foreign...but I do not understand this comment about burning DILs alive for not "showing respect"? [b]That is a first class Bitch comment to make, and says a lot about how utterly ugly you are.[/b]

The reason I do all these things for them is that they have always spoken to me sweetly and they have gone out of their way to let my parents and siblings know that they are lucky that I am their DIL. Furthermore, they are used to certain luxuries in their own country and I want them to be comfortable here.   They are also loving towards my children and I want my kids to bond with them when they are here.

It is my nature to avoid unpleasantness, and if I have to do something I would rather do it gracefully rather than be a bitch about it. They have not raised me, their ways are not what I am used to but basic courtesy and politeness goes a long way in smoothing things. I am not the kind of person who will ever tolerate disrespectful behavior or hurtful words from anybody, but I am careful I do not hurt other people's feeling either.

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