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Thank you, 14:03.  Yes, to all who posted their views on Asians being different, does that apply to those born and raised in the US?  I kind of suspect those of you with stereotypes do not differentiate and that is frustrating to me.

To the discipline poster, nope, my kids are not terrors.

I am not a tiger mom -- pretty much no enrichment activities except instrument.  I kind of suspect that people think we do them, though.

Thanks for all the honest replies.  Thanks to those who shared their own difficulties making friends here.  I will go back to thinking that it may be a little about my personality and a little about the area.  And I will keep being friendly and involved.
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Because just as you may think all white people are alike, it is fair game that some people may think all Asians may be similar.  Do people ask you, right off, if you were born here?  Are they supposed to know that?  You seem presumptuous, OP.  Maybe many of us are guilty of that.

Not all white upper middle class moms have spoiled kids and throw their money around, for example.  I have had one Asian family actually try to say that about me "they can do what they want in that house".  Not true, and if you knew anything about our family, then you would know that.  But you just blew your chance, that is for certain.

Try not to be so judgy; and we won't assume you are a overindulgent, obsessed with money Tiger Mom with no boundaries (for whom Yale or fail is your mantra!) and no sense of where you are.  Try to lighten up.  Know who you are, instead of trying to mind who everyone else is.

May I ask, what generation are you?  Did your parents come over?  Grandparents?  Because this is one clue.

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Whoa, whoa ... simmer down.  Not sure why you think I think all white moms are the same.  I was trying to solicit responses from white moms so I put that in the title.  I fully expected to hear differing opinions.

It is obvious that I was born here if you hear me say anything.  No accent.

I make no stereotypical comments about white people. As I mentioned, I grew up here and am married to one.  Not clear what in my post was judgy.

I am not a tiger mom (nor am I of Chinese origin).[/quote]

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