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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am also really having a hard time politely explaining to (black) women that, although I find them attractive, and would date them, it would not be fair to them to get too serious because I may very well stray. Some feel let down, and some understand.  [/quote]

OP, for starters, why do you feel like you need to explain that you're not attracted to them because they're not white, and that if you continue to see them, you'll just cheat on them with a white woman? Why can't you just say "I think you're a really cool person but I don't think a romantic relationship is going to work between us" and leave it at that? Are you really telling them "I can't date you anymore because you're black"? If so, I'm surprised ANY of them understand.

Who people are attracted to physically varies. I am a white girl raised on Alternative Nation and I dated a lot of men who fit a basic physical stereotype of white, dark hair, medium build. I am now 33 years old and married to a Lebanese man who can essentially bench press me. You might find that later in your life, you are attracted to different things, physically, and I would hope that at all times in your life, you consider the things a woman has to offer that are not physical when pursuing a relationship with her.[/quote]

Thanks. No one will ever explain ethnicity as the real reason for lack of romantic potential with anyone. That's never wise. And, like I inferred, I do have 'romantic relationships' with Black women, but that extra factor is just not there.

You are right. A woman's personality has far greater weighting than her physical attributes. Would I be opening a Pandora's Box if I say that might also influence my natural affinity to women of other races/ethnicity?

OP [/quote]

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