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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it very difficult not to be envious of all the wealth around us in this area. But that only happens when I look in one direction. If I look behind me, I see a lot of poverty, extreme, horrible poverty and everything in between. Most of the world is not doing very well. Most people are struggling to keep their lives together, living paycheck to paycheck and barely making it. Lots of people are NOT making it. Look around, and you will see these people everywhere. And there are a lot more of them than the very wealthy folk that populate your's and your wife's minds.

My DH struggled for a very long time to find a job, and he wasn't even unemployed. In certain fields, there are not any jobs, and when there are openings, there are hundreds of applicants, so employers can be extremely picky and choose the applicant with exactly the experience they want, leaving the other 499 well-qualified applicants out in the cold.

OP knows he needs a job. He's taking steps to find one, and to train for a more lucrative position. What he needs now is to figure out how to get his wife to stop comparing their situation to others. Of course what she's doing is complaining about OP's lack of a job, which he hates. There's not much he can do about that except find work, and perhaps the complaining will stop.

OP, I suggest that you simply [b]ignore your wife's negative comments[/b]. Don't argue, just ignore. And say positive things about your lives together right now. Keep it to the facts, and don't mention anyone else. It's so easy to get caught up in your wife's complaining if you have a chip on your shoulder as well, but if you want her b**ching to stop, you've got to change your behavior right now.

Good luck finding work, OP. It sounds like you have a plan and are moving in the right direction. I hope you find work you enjoy. [/quote]

Ignore?! Divorce solves a lifetime of disaster.

Good luck to OP if he doesn't spot the signs early. If I were in his shoe, I would be single by daylight, and go find me a more stable partner who sees beyond my material potential, and appreciates me for who I am as a person! [/quote]

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