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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a DW, and I would have done what you did with the popcorn.

Your problem seems to be that you haven't married a very nice person. Possibly could be why you asked the internet instead of asking her directly how to handle this better. I have a definite vibe that she would have escalated her tirade if you had done that.

Saying "this is why I HATE you" is not normal, and extremely hurtful. Saying that in front of your kids is reprehensible. Treating their father like that in front of them damages their sense of security in your bond, their view of you, and their view of marriage. I repeat, she is not a nice or safe person. There may be other factors at play besides the popcorn incident, otherwise that definitely escalated quickly.  I would reccommend counseling for the two of you, since I have no idea what else to suggest for a person that would even think of doing this in front of their children.

Even more troubling is the amount of female posters that think this sort of behavior is all right, or is in anyway justifying it. It is not okay to treat anyone like this, especially the person you took vows with.[/quote]

If the genders were reversed, every other post would be "divorce him!"[/quote]

I don't think so. There isn't one poster here saying "this is why I hate you" is acceptable. The posters that think it's ok to mother or boss your husband are another issue. That behavior effectively communicates "I think you're so inept that I have to tell you what to do, how to do it, and when, and then punish you if it doesn't done when and how I like." That's not part of your vows, ladies. Step back and give it another look. [/quote]

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