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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am seriously shocked at the level this conversation has disintegrated into, but I do commiserate and empathesize with OP and the series (wow! lots of us!) of posters who have a similar situation.

Just to share my experience. My XH is a chronic job frog. Like some other posters, he has a very egotistical view of himself. Like some of the PPs, he also doesn't "mind" being unemployed, being fired, quitting and can't imagine why this stressed me out. It hasn't been said in other posts, but maybe like some others, he also has very terrible listening skills. "Tone deaf." So I can easily imagine how a boss might start signalling what needs to happen and between his overinflated ego and his inability to hear people, he might just not notice these signals.

It is very stressful and also (in my case) was also a source of resentment because I really wanted to reduce my hours to 80% to spend more time with our child and he would not even work a crappy job ("slumming" was his term) to pull his weight. All of these things (plus the traits that make him a terrible employee) led to our divorce.

I think OP may want to think about to what extent she can handle the stress this situation is causing and also consider to what extent her spouse is willing to mitigate that stress. Would he be willing to see a career coach to understand factors that are hurting his employability? In my family if XH had taken a crappy (even part time job while still looking for that "real" job), we'd have stayed together. In other words, there's the situation (which sucks) and then there's the spouse's reaction to that situation.

GL. I am hoping things turn out better for you.
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OP needs to take responsibility for her decision to marry such a loser. This is why you date for YEARS, to discover stuff like this. [/quote]

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