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[quote=Anonymous]I think it's really important to accept the reality that sex, like many other things in life, becomes very different when you're a parent. I mean, I used to love going to yoga 3x/week, but that aint happening any more either! And even if I do make it to a class, it's now a much different experience from the leisurely, carefree 1.5 hrs pre-baby.  Sex is the same - putting aside all questions of "low drive vs high drive" (which I also think can become a corrosive discourse) - after you have a baby, you just don't have the ability to loll around all day every sunday and get 2 of your 5 weekly fucks in, no matter how high your sex drive.

Like everything else you might mourn from your pre-baby life, carefree sex is one of them.

I think it's important to accept this because the diminishment of sex often becomes a blaming thing (usually blaming the woman) for "losing her sex drive" after having kids. But that's kind of as ridiculous as saying that I've "lost my yoga drive" post-kids.  No. It's just different now, and external factors are keeping me from going to yoga 3x/week.

So I think the key is to prioritize sex, and make the sex you do have high-quality, but to accept the new role sex has in your life as parents. If you get fixated on comparing yourselves to others, you're never going to be happy. 
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