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[quote=Anonymous] I know his reasoning is because he is not working and is depressed and my reasoning is that he cannot stop his life and our life together because he has no job as we are financially stable and have a lovely home.  In fact reading this back I realise how selfish I sound me and my biological clock but it's all I can think about do I give up having children for this man? Do I wait and live in hope he says some day he hopes to have kids but he is very washy washy about it. We ended up in the solicitors earlier this year drafting a seperation agreement because he refuses to have kids and yeah I am concerned that he is not working but if we are so happy together and in many way I am happy with him he will not give in and I cannot force him. You know what I realises I have put up with things from this man that I would never advise anyone to do what I have done.  I am too weak to leave him I am terrified of being left alone if I give up my husband to peruse having children those children will be out of wedlock because of the marraige laws in Ireland and who is to say I could meet someone in time to have children.  I should have left him years ago but I was not able and I foolishly thought everything would work out with his work etc.. That he would get control of his depression but that never happened and now we are at a stale mate. Do I give up having children for a man my us and who does not even work? Who does not even look after himself.  Why am I trapped in this bloody spell I am on why can't I make up my bloody mind on whether to leave him or not? I tried to leave him and I couldn't stand the pain of being without him he came home after a week of being away afte the last fight about having children. Nothing changed the subject is stil taboo we can't talk about it because it will cause a row and the baby room is painted yellow.  This is weird for me I can't imagine life without him but I can't imagine not having children I'm torn I'm heart broken but not angry not anymore I don't even blame him I know he has depression but I feel like life has stopped because of this like we can't ever move on because he is out of work and depressed and I nerv left him when I had the chance on I stuck it out foolishly, I stuck it out because I love him because it hurst to be without him because I want his baby because we were supposed to get married for ever but he let me down[/quote]

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