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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He probably suspects as much if he's smart at all--I guessed that he had a different father after the first two sentences of your post. [/quote]

This, this, I bet, is why he Cant.Let.It.Go.  That's it.  Somewhere he suspects; especially due to the differential treatment.

But I liked the first PPs response--give Grandma 30 days.  If she doesn't tell, then move to Phase 2.

I'm not sure about Phase 2, though, what it is.  I think (but can be persuaded otherwise) that because everyone else knows, your brother needs to know.  Your brother will be so grateful to you that you did not do what the others did and was upfront with him.  Now, I have a little caveat here--you can't blame a cousin for not saying anything; it's sort of way out of the nuclear family.  And you can't blame someone for not telling your brother when he was young and your dad was involved--again, not their business.

But Grandma IS the default closest person with the truth, now that mom's dead and dad's estranged, so it IS her place at this time.  You are not the closest person because you are hearing it through Grandma.  But if Grandma doesn't do it, it does fall to you.

Who's mom is she--your dad's or your mom's?  Asking b/c of DNA test.  If she's your dad's, then if the story is true, there will be no overlapping DNA between her and your brother.  Of course, if she's your dad's, the story is more suspect--maybe your dad was ranting to her one day.  But if she's your mom's, the DNA with HER won't work, but the story is more likely true, as she was only 19 or 20 when pregnant and Grandma would likely have been involved in all this.[/quote]

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