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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife was my high school sweetheart and my "first" everything. Every time I tried to break up with her, she made me feel guilty about "taking" her virginity. Years later she made me feel guilty about taking her youth, and she threatened to kill herself of I didn't marry her. Years into the marriage, she made me feel guilty for not having kids with her. Once the two kids we eventually had were in school, I started cheating. I am now finally divorcing her and breaking free of her.

I know no one can make you feel guilty. But for years she thought she had power over me because she had sex with me. Our families were both pressuring us to stay together. She literally threatened to commit suicide if I didn't marry her.

Until I met another woman and cheated, I didn't know how truly miserable and unhappy I was. I had the strength to leave after three decades of her emotional torment and blackmail. [/quote]

You don't really take responsibility for your part. She "made" you feel this and "made" you feel that. You married her because she threatened suicide.
She sounds horrible and I'm glad you finally got out but she didn't make you do anything - there was a toxic dynamic between the two of you and you were unable to extricate yourself, for whatever reason. [/quote]

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