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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This sounds like the reverse of a man making it as a powerful attorney or doctor, then deciding that his wife, who helped him through med or law school is too old, doesn't work out enough for him to stay fit after having kids, so then decides to divorce for a younger model.

If your DH was an asshole, this would be a different story, but low ambition?

How many posts have you read on this forum where a women states her DH is saying mean things to her after she's gained some weight after having kids?

Did you marry him for his ambition?  If you need him to pickup more slack at home, that's different. Talk to him about it.  But divorcing him for a lack of ambition sounds much like a man divorcing a woman for gaining weight.[/quote]

I don't understand why picking up slack at home is somehow more acceptable than picking up slack at work? 
Some women want meant to be more domestic, I don't. I have always taken card of the home, because I am traditional. I am attracted to those qualities in my DH as well, the traditional male role. Why am I wrong for wanting ambition over him doing the dishes?

Seems like this is relationship dependent, and my perspective should to be wrong just because some women want the opposite. [/quote]

How is it ok for a woman to not take on the traditional gender role (being a SAHM), but it's not ok for a man to not take on the traditional role of being ambitious and the breadwinner?

My DH is very good at his job.  If he wanted to, he could make a lot more $.  But along with that, comes more stress and working longer hours.  Neither of us want that because we feel it would take away time from family.  He makes enough to to take care of the family. That's all we need.  I don't need him to be more ambitious so that we could have more $, and his identity is not wrapped up in his title at his job.

I think the question to ask is "why do you want your DH to be ambitious" and "how ambitious should he be?"   [/quote]

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