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OP here, this seems reasonable but admittedly it's also what I want to hear.  I suppose that if I was thinking of divorce, then the worst that happens if I get caught cheating is....divorce.  I should probably check with a family law attorney and see if that matters, I thought my state was no-fault.  Anyway, I am happy to give her half of everything.  She is a good mom, a good person and as a SAHM she needs to be financially taken care of till she can get established.  We are good friends, just not good sexual partners.
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14:18 man here.

Yes, the optoins seem to be:
1. Do nothing, end up divorced. You end up unhappy, spouse ends up unhappy.
2. Have affair, stay married. You end up happy, spouse ends up happy (maybe).
3. Have affair, spouse finds out and doesn't like it, get divorced. You end up unhappy (or maybe happy), spouse ends up unhappy.

Yes, the risk with #3 is that your kids, friends, etc look down on you for cheating. You know your spouse and others well enough to figure out the risk and falllout from this. I know if my DW found out, she'd be hurt but we wouldn't divorce. She's a very rational person, and we'd stay together or work out an arrangement that's best for our kids. Besides, who will have better luck after divorce on the dating market -- a 45-year old single mother, or a 45-year old single father?
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