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OP here. Thanks very much for the honest responses. My take from this is that this Anglo-American approach to marriage and family which we practice, while workable, is really flawed. It is very risky; it does not make you totally happy (emotionally, financially, and sexually) when kids are in the mix; and is really over-rated. While I like the stability of building a life together with someone, vacationing at will, and having crazy sex without worrying about kids, [/b]I am really wondering if it is worth the trouble of legally joining assets and all of that stuff. [/b]

Kudos to the ones who got it right and married your best friends and still remain tight despite parenting and temptations outside. For me who seems unlucky and doesn't fancy parenting at all, I will just stick to dating and the 'friend with benefits' scenario, so I don't live a life of total frustration, or have child support drama when I choose to go elsewhere and be happy.

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DH here, the marriage effort is worth it if you want to have and raise healthy emotionally well balanced children.  But if you don't want children, I agree that marriage is pointless.

For me, I would not be with DW except for the kids.  I love her, we parent well, we get along great and enjoy each other's company, but we are more platonic than romantic.  It's a great friendship, but I miss the sex.   I wish her the best, but like most marriages the sex and passion has faded.  I think most relationships run their course after about 4-10 years.  Although we work on our relationship for the sake of the marriage and kids, why on earth would you work on something that would otherwise come easy in a new relationship?

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