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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter is in this position now. 
Although its been only 3 years. (She is 20)
I'm just worried he will continue to disappoint 
Her and in time disappoint her child. 
You could always send a birth announcemt and let him
make the first move. 
[b]In my ex husbands case the new wife forbids contact with my daughter.[/b] [/quote]

You are deluding yourself if you think the reason this man does not contact your daughter is because his wife forbids it. He doesn't contact your daughter because he doesn't want to. But I guess it is easier to blame a random third party rather that admit the cold hard truth: You chose to procreate with a man who does not give a shit about his child. That's on you.[/quote]

No. That's on him for being a asshole. If he were a decent person, there's no way a new partner would get to even suggest something like that. Stop the woman-blaming, it's the ex husband who's a total jerk.[/quote]

It is gender neutral. If a man or woman chooses a complete jackass (man or woman) as a co-parent, they can't act all outraged and astonished when that man or woman acts like a complete jackass. In this instance, I blame the father for rejecting his child (I personally would not want to have a child with that sort of man) but I also blame the mother for choosing said jackass to be her child's other parent. Unless this guy had a head injury or developed a mental illness after the birth of the baby, most of us have a pretty good idea who we are making a child with. There are usually signs that we choose to ignore for whatever reason. People make shitty choices and then want to blame someone else when the natural consequences arise.

You are absolutely right about one thing. If he were a decent person, a new partner would not be able to interfere with his relationship with his child. But he is not a decent person and yet somebody chose to procreate with him anyway. 
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