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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I am considering individual counselling to make sure this is really what I want. I don't want to blow up the family home if I can avoid it. Couples counselling seems pointless, no? I can't imagine it is going to put DW in the mood if she is being told that her marriage depends on it. I would rather masturbate than have sex with an unwilling spouse. [/quote]

Dude. You still don't get it. Couples counseling isn't to "put your wife in the mood". It's to repair a relationship that seems broken. Not surprising, reading your posts. Not trying to be an ass, but man does it sound like you don't respect your spouse.

Repaired/repairing relationship = happier spouse = increases likelihood of sex.

Clearer?[/quote]

It does not work that way.

I was low drive and it was not because my relationship was broken. My libido was broken. It happens.

Capisce?[/quote]

Actually it often works that way. Effort and discussion elucidate all kinds of info, including the fact that someone's libido is "broken". If OP involved his wife in the process, he might figure that out.[/quote]

Actually, I can assure you that hormones play a huge role. Ot is actually quite normal. It is also a major reason for divorce. Look it up.

I speak from experience. I did not WANT to have no drive. My DH was a great husband. However, one should not have to take a vow of celibacy. [/quote]

You and PP are making the same point from different angles.

OP: There's a reason.  Low drive, unhappiness, stress, depression, medical issues, you sucking in bed, old resentments... There's a cause.  Find it.[/quote]

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