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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you're a fake.

However, for those who might be reading this to gain insight on how to have more patience with family members (including children), I used a little mind tricking to retrain myself.  I did this because in the moment of frustration, it can be hard to be our best selves.  Sometimes you just have to fake it till you make it, and you need some simple little tricks that you can deploy when the chips are down.

That said, and I can't remember who I lifted this from, sorry, I pretend I'm talking to a VIP I have to host in my home.

What would I say if the Ambassador had just dined in my home and walked out leaving her umbrella behind?  Would I say, "OMG you wouldn't remember your own head if it wasn't attached would you?  How can you be so stupid and forgetful?  Uh, did you forget something silly...again?  Your...umbrella?  Hello?"

No.  I would say, "here's your umbrella.  thanks for visiting.  I really enjoyed having you."

Playing this little game has helped me retrain myself to speak with more respect to my husband, kids, and yes, mom and dad.

I wish I had spoken respectfully every single time with my beloved, spectacular grandmother.  I was rude and impatient a few times.  I miss her literally every day.  I can't believe she is gone and I cannot call her, visit her, or hug her.  Sometimes I mentally tour her house and sit beside her and talk to her because I miss her so much.[/quote]

OP here. Nope not fake. I will say I've done well to be kind and gentle to her this visit and not exhibit the behavior that I used to even though I had these feelings inside. [/quote]

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