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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]This is not your problem to solve.  These kids already have parents who seem to have shifted all of their parenting responsibility to you.
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What are the parents doing on their "break" other than getting a divorce that's keeping them from raising their own kids?

You are being put into a untenable situation by your selfish sister and your nagging STBX bil.

Send the kids home.  Your family is being damaged by this dynamic.

Kudos to you for lasting this long.  Again, send the kids back home.[/quote]

PP, you are everything that is wrong with DC.  Those kids are OP's nieces/nephews.  They are extended family. Their parents are AWOL.   OP can say "Not my problem" and leave her nieces/nephews to suffer or she can step up.

Screw the parents. They're a hot mess. Those kids deserve whatever help OP can give, though.

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Not the PP whose advice you are commenting on, but this isn’t a situation where OP has to deal with rude/bratty kids without any other parties being involved. The kids are causing unpleasantness and ruining the summer for OP’s children and DH. Fine, DH is an adult and maybe should put up with it (debatable, but let’s leave that alone). OP’s kids have done nothing wrong and in taking care of well-being of her nieces/nephews, I fail to see why OP’s own children’s welfare should be thrown under the bus.

Related – the kids at issue are not 5. They are teens/pre-teens and really should know how to behave by now. I don’t care how much family turmoil they have – t[b]hey should expect to either act properly or face the consequences[/b]. A family divorce is no excuse for being bratty nightmares to people who have nothing to do with it.
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These kids are having a crisis. Their parents have abandoned them. Their family is in shreads. They are afraid and angry and taking it out on everyone around them.  They're in a state of depression and grief.

OP's kids are having an unpleasant summer because their cousins are being asses. It's just some unpleasantness, though.

I don't think their unpleasant summer outweighs the needs of their cousins, who are in some serious shit.

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Well, OP is not a shrink and she is supposed to take care of her OWN family not someone else's, no matter what their familial ties are.  [/quote]
Wow what a HORRIBLE attitude ![/quote]

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