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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder how many folks here actually have kids in college - I have 3.

Of course I worry about them.  But honestly, my kids attended of lot of parties in 11th and 12th grade and were very aware of the alcohol culture of that age group.  2 of the 3 attend a school that does not have Greeks so they do not have that pressure.  We gave our kids age-appropriate independence and we communicated with them constantly. And we have been lucky!

Try as you might, you will NEVER find an environment for your kid that is totally safe because no such place exists.  What you can do is communicate with them about the risks associated with certain behavior and actions and hope that they get it.  There is no instruction manual.  What you should NOT do is shelter your kid so much that a little freedom turns them crazy.  Because I have seen that too.  [/quote]

[b]My DD attended lots of parties in 11th & 12th grade also.  However, several of her peers who attended the same parties with her during high school entered college with alcohol and drug abuse problems that became progressively worse during freshmen year of college.  Eventually, they either dropped out of school or took a year off to go to rehab.
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Communication is great if they listen to you, but it just isn't going to be that thing that will keep all kids safe.  Since my DD was a little girl we've talked about alcohol and drugs and that some family members are alcoholics and drug addicts and that she should be careful.  However, that didn't stop her from drinking socially, under the age of 21 at college.     [/quote]

So I assume your daughter did not go down the same bad road?  Do you know why she was able to socially drink and not get carried away?  My DD also has been to parties where there is drinking (she is in HS).  Unfortunately, the last time, she was the only one of the group who went overboard (drank way too much, got way too sick).  So now I wonder if she will be one of the ones who cannot handle social drinking in college.  Yes, it was just one bad experience, but she hasn't been to any parties since to see how they go (we haven't let her).  Any advice?
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I really think it was a combo of things: early morning sport practice and that she's cautious by nature, knows when to throw her off/enough switch.  During a high school party, she watched a friend pass out in the ladies room and then get rushed to the emergency room.  I think the image of her friend with vomit all over herself and unresponsive stuck with her.         [/quote]

Where did that experience happen?[/quote]

High school after dance party at a student's house, metro area.[/quote]

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