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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]guy here - NO WAY.  you haven't told him that you slept with the guys he thinks are only friends.  and you can't tell him now - it's way to late to come clean and it will not come off (to him) good at all.[/quote]

Just invite them and say nothing. [/quote]

nothing like starting a new life with a spouse blind to deception...and deceived at the goddamn wedding no less!   :shock: [/quote]

She hasn't told him before because it's none of his business. She shouldn't tell him now because it's still none of his business and it will just stir up trouble. If those guys haven't been jerks and told him, then she shouldn't either. That stuff is her past. Leave it there.

She's not under oath. She doesn't have an obligation to disclose every single thing. A relationship isn't a deposition. [/quote]

I might agree with you except for one major point - OP still brings these guys around as "friends."  If she had ONS or FWB situations with these guys and they were totally out of the picture, I would agree with you 100%.  But bringing people around your mate that you have been intimate with AND not telling him is very bad for business.  Let me put it this way...if he finds out eventually, OP saying "Honey I did not tell you that I used to bang the guy we hang out with because it is not your business" will NOT be well recieved AT ALL! [/quote]

My perspective is different. I went to a tiny college. People frequently dated other friends' exes or former hook-ups.  It was too little not to do that.  We never told a boyfriend if we hooked up with his friends or fraternity brothers in the past, unless we felt like telling him. It just wasn't relevant to the present relationship.  People who are threatened by that stuff are screamingly insecure. [/quote]

I get what you are saying - I just think you are ignoring one major aspect of OP's situation.  Namely, the fact that these people are still major parts of her life and SHE is the one who broght them in as friends to her current relationship.  I am probably the least insecure person around but that aspect of it bothers me.  IMO it IS relevant to the current relationship.    [/quote]

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