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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those who have said they would take in the family or "would if they could," under what circumstances would you actually do this? It sounds like the situation OP describes would not be temporary. And it involves multiple children - which presumably would be in her care if the brother is to be able to work.  Is this correct OP? Would you be able to arrange and pay for daycare when they are not in school or be able to take care of them yourself? How many of you would really be able to handle taking care of several young children in addition to your own on an ongoing basis? Be honest.[/quote]

I could realistically take in 2-3 of my siblings' children on a temporary basis and see to it that they're cared for and loved, but I'd need to either have financial support from my sibling (or if my parents decided to foot the bill) or have guardianship signed over the the duration of the stay so that I can make use of the childcare subsidy available to me through my employer. ANd I know not all families are in the position, but in mine, if that sort of situation arose, probably all the siblings would pitch in a bit - some to cover groceries, some to cover summer camp, while the other sibling took on the day to day duties of childcare. So if my brother got sick, his wife left him or wasn't able to manage, and my parents weren't in a position to care for the kids, then I could take them until he recovers and I think overall, that would be less traumatic for the kids, so we'd do our best to make it work.

But if one of my siblings wasn't holding down a job and was well and capable, like with OP's brother, I can't imagine me housing the kids would be the best kind of help. My parents would probably take the grandkids in, but I'm not sure how long my dad would give before kicking the adult out for refusing to be responsible. We were always told that you can work and have support or you can be out on your own, but you don't get to just be an adult living off mom & dad's sofa.[/quote]

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