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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think I would forget babysitting 100%.  You have a nanny, your parents are not interested.

But do continue to invite your parents to things.  Birthday parties.  Dinners at your house.  A nice afternoon at the park.  Grandparents' day at the nursery school  Take it as it comes and don't let them think you are upset when they turn you down.

And if they do invite you over, accept much of the time, but not to the point of heroism.  Don't make a point of it.

It's disappointing, sure, but I tihnk if you limit your expectations to a little bit of a relationship rather than babysitting the dynamic might be helped.

Sadly, I think I agree with a PP about how the grandparents see the kids as weird competition, though.  If you do see that, don't let it bite for a nanosecond.  Just ignore any weird comments/behaviors.  When your mom suggests meeting at the mall, change the subject.  don't let your parents change your priorities.  And don't let them see you be needy.  They seem to like that.  But when you see your parents' friends when you are over, don't gloss over the shitty grandparents they are.   It seems like your parents like to claim to be great , so embarrass them where it hurts as your revenge.  No, not grown up, but advice to just be an angel all the time wouldn't really be feasible.
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