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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a WOHM, but I agree with the PP. Everyone focuses on divorce but if one partner stays home, she actually will make out better financially in a divorce than the woman who works. Well, for a few years until alimony runs out.

Really, though, the bigger issues happens if he CAN'T work. Even if he's just out of work for a while. My Mother went to work when my Dad lost his job and they didn't know what to do. So, that's how I was raised. Not "Oh your husband could leave you", which makes people defensive, but "what if your husband can't work?", which is just a legitimate question.

Still, you will never win an argument with a SAHM about whether she should work or not. The fact is, she doesn't agree with you. "I made a choice for my family" is her telling you that you made the other choice. If your choice were the correct one to her, she'd have made it. On the other hand, you are saying the same thing....that working is the "right" choice. It's not a discussion worth having and the point of asking the question is just so that you'll be able to stand on a high horse.

I've been working part-time for years, but I'm going back full-time. People who stayed home thought it was awful my children were in daycare. People who worked thought it was awful that I didn't put more into my career. There is no "win" here. Now that I'm going back full-time I'm hearing about how stupid that is from people. Ugh. [/quote]

Why do you all think a woman makes out better in a divorce if she doesn't work???  Sure, she might temporarily get alimony, but it doesn't last forever.  And meanwhile you have to rebuild your career, taking a lower salary and a much lower quality of life after the alimony runs out.  [/quote]

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