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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am always surprised how much confidence women who have quit work have that their husbands are really going to stay married to them. With the divorce rate around 50%, I'd have to be a total lunatic to make myself so dependent on him. SAHMs, do you ever have doubts or anxiety about this?[/quote]

I worry more about death and disability.  We have enough for both of us to have a decent retirement- separately. We have enough equity in our house that I could buy a 2/3 bedroom townhouse with half of the proceeds.  Finances would not be my issue, the emotional wallop would be the biggest challenge for me and that would happen regardless of my working status.

As others have said, the chance of divorce isn't the same for everyone.   Factors that reduce our chance of divorce: married at 30 and 33, both of us had parent with intact and loving marriages lasting over 50 years, we are educated, we have children, we have been married 20 years, we are active members in our Congregation, our marriage is sturdy and we work as a team.  The  main factor that increases our chances (statistically) is having two children with special needs which is the reason we have a sahp.

I do see myself as dependent on my partner- but that didn't change when I stopped working to sah.  He is also dependent on me.  It is part of marriage to be dependent on each other.  I lean on him and he leans on me and we are able to be stronger together.

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