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[quote=Anonymous]I just wanted to chime in to say that I think I know where your mother-in-law may be coming from.  If she is used to having her entire family together every other year for the holidays, that is a rare and special family tradition.  If this is the first year that someone will not be there, she is probably afraid that it is the beginning of the end.  I.e., that this year someone won't be able to come because of the new baby, then next year someone will have some other reason, and before you know it the tradition stops happening altogether.

That said, I in no way think you are unreasonable.  I just think it helps to have some kind of empathy and understanding for why people get so emotional.

I would have the following conversation: "MIL, I hear that you are still upset about our decision regarding this Thanksgiving.  I am so sorry that that is not going to work for us, but we are comfortable with our decision and with the reasons behind it.  It is no longer open for discussion.  I hope that we can have peace on the subject, so that we will still feel comfortable visiting at Christmas and at future thanksgivings. That is a tradition that means so much to myself, DH, and DD."[/quote]

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