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[quote=Anonymous]I am shocked by how many people are beating up OP.  Honestly.  It's like the Real Housewives of DC on this board!  This only pales to the Janney thread.

I have had friends on both sides of the equation.  One - a friend who confessed she found out her husband had been having repeated affairs.  I advised her to get couples counseling (HE would not go) she went.  He's always been an ass and I have known them both for a very long time.  They are still together and the last time I saw her, she was very proud of her infinity band he gave her for their last anniversary.  He continues to be verbally abusive to her, always has been.  They have three kids and she just won't leave.  It's her choice, I am her friend and always will be but I have to say, I really don't want to spend much time with her and I really cannot look her husband in the eye and prefer to ignore him.

Second friend is single but having an affair with a married man and thinks no one knows but everyone does.  It's embarrassing for both of them and the "elephant in the room."   She has not discussed it with me but has discussed it with other mutual friends (when she's drunk) and no one has kept her secret.  I've distanced myself from her and don't think we will be ever be friends like we were before.  He's to blame and so is she but she is out to lunch if she thinks it's a forever romance.

Third friend said she told her newly wed husband "I don't care if you cheat on me, just don't embarrass me and please be discreet."  This just makes me sad.  Particularly because I don't think the husband is even the cheating type but that the wife is so insecure that she would say this to her new husband and then share it.

This is all sad behavior in my opinion.  OP, it might be difficult to confront your friend, but you should be honest with her and tell her how you feel.  I would cancel that trip to the Cape![/quote]

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