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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As long as you realize that sex in its best sense is over and you're ok with that then it's no prob.  Men tend to miss high quality sex more since they are hard wired for mating.[/quote]

WTF. I don't know what kind of marriage you are in, but we still have sex every day, and not prefunctorily (I'd be willing to go for more, if DH wanted it). In any event, if one party is not getting enough sex, then the adult thing to do is to discuss it with your partner, not to cheat. If after discussion, the parties can't come to a [b]mutually agreeable compromise[/b], and your frequency/type of sex is that important to you, then divorce. Or enter into an open marriage. There is no excuse for lying and cheating of any sort. [/quote]

Tough to compromise on sex. If one person wants to have sex and the other doesn't, but they have sex anyway, that's pretty rapey. [/quote]

I am not suggesting one partner jump on the other (duh). However, let's say one partner likes to have sex 10 times a week and the other likes to have sex two times a week. They compromise and have sex five times a week - less than one partner likes and more than another partner likes. With both consenting every time, obviously. How is that rape? That's a compromise for the sake of marital harmony. People don't only have sex when both are so horny from the get-go that they start ripping clothes off like romance novel characters. Occasionally, people have sex where one partner is more into it than the other, but as long as both are into it, I fail to see the issue. Sometimes DH is really in the mood and I am tired. If I am tired enough, I say no and it goes no further. But most of the time, we go for it (with my very obvious consent), because guess what - I love him, and making him happy makes me happy, not to mention that I am attracted to him so having sex with him is hardly a hardship even if it takes a little extra to get me in the mood at those times. And sometimes the shoe is on the other foot - he is exhausted after a long day and I am feeling frisky. He loves me, so most of the time he is willing to work to get in the mood, but when he doesn't, I hardly force him. Marriage is often work and compromise about a lot of things, why should sex be any different? If you love your partner, why would you mind making him happy?[/quote]

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