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[quote=Anonymous]Yes.  We knew about it because dad would lie about where he was and one time a woman answered his cell phone and he made some BS reason why.  I was home for the summer in college and my youngest sibling was in junior high.  Parents ended up divorcing, dad filed, and he married TOW.  I had a poor relationship with him for years after.  For me it was about the deception and being lied to and feeling like his kids took second place to his social life/dealing with his issues with my mom.  I still don't know what exactly happened.   My parents to both their credit won't bad mouth the other.  The only thing that has dropped a decade after the divorce is at some point my dad told my mom he didn't love her anymore (her side) and my dad claims my mom changed and was influenced by her mom and the bedroom door was closed to him (his side). What improved my relationship with my dad was when he admitted he was wrong, he said he lied because he was ashamed of what he was doing and didn't know how to handle the issues he and my mom had and admitted part of why he rushed into marrying TOW was because he had a sick parent and he didn't feel equipped to handle it alone.  If he had not manned up and apologized, taken responsibility, and given me some glimpse of why he made some of those choices, I would not have been able to forgive him.  I also saw he tried to bend over backwards to make it up to my youngest sister and she was the most impacted of the siblings and gave him he€€ but he tried for years.  I think he also regrets not working things out with my mom.  I feel like in words and actions he has tried to make amends.[/quote]

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