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I have to agree with others -- you can't control what people give; you CAN control whether your kid has access to the gift or not.

When someone gives your child a gift, even one that is unequivocally inappropriate, you thank them. At home, you can put it away in a closet, sell it on eBay, or do whatever you think is best for your child.[/quote]

I am going to disagree. The people I know would never gift our children anything, before talking to us first. Neither would I ever gift a child something without asking their parents. It's normal to me, it's normal to everyone I know. If I never tell someone that their gift was inappropriate, they will never know - you don't think they might WANT TO know? I sure would. If I gave a vegetarian family, of whom I don't know they are vegetarian, a gift card to a steakhouse...I'd sure like to know that that wasn't quite the best idea I've ever had.

But I guess that's just me, actually caring more about the feelings of the people getting gifts, than my own, giving gifts. I always thought giving gifts is about making other people happy - not about not getting my own feelings hurt...[/quote]

It is absolutely kind and thoughtful of a gift-giver to ask first and make an effort to find the right gift, you're right about that.

That doesn't mean a recipient can EXPECT that a gift-giver will do that -- it's not a requirement, it's just a nice thing.

And if someone doesn't do that and gives a gift that misfires, no matter how badly, you say thank you and regift or sell or bury it in your backyard. What you don't do is go back to the giver and express your dissatisfaction with a GIFT.[/quote]

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