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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]From OP's latest post: "It sucks but I'll take this relationship over the old one we had when I was living at home where she would constantly scream, swear, throw things, etc. at me."

So PPs who claim (especially after OP said this) her Mom gave her a good home should probably apologize for that. A better home than Dad? Probably. But not a good home.

So Dad disappeared, and Mom was probably too busy dealing with her own demons to be a good parent. [b]What about your step-Dad, OP? Was he able to protect you from your Mom when she started going off the deep end? [/b]

Keep your contact limited to e-mail or actual letters, OP, at least for the time being. Explicitly ask him not to contact you through other media than the one you choose, and if he doesn't respect that, just run.

He's not going to rescue you from whatever your mother has put you through, he is going to take you to (probably) a deeper level of Hell. If he has grown up and wants to connect with you, then do that, but be prepared for him to just lose interest or ask you for money.

If he's been clean for the past 15-20 years you may want to factor that into any decisions you make. [/quote]

OP here: When all of this was happening, he honestly did nothing. He always took my moms side/stayed out of it. It was actually 2 summers ago when I was moving back to my home state after living in Virginia for a year, that he called me and apologized to me for never standing up for me when she was doing the things she did to me. Now, him and I have a great relationship. I talk to him more then I do my mom. [/quote]

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